How often does it happen that you perform things or act in ways to feel accepted? Wearing a dress you are not comfortable in, opting for a job you are not interested in, or modifying life choices because most of your friends are into it are some of the instances where you change to feel accepted. Understandably, you do have reasons to justify your acts, but have you ever thought whether it is meant for you? Changing yourself to fit into a pattern that was never designed for you in the first place is where you start feeling detached from yourself.
You might have never thought about this, but if you closely look, you will realize how other individuals’ possessions, idea of success, happiness, and perspective of you start controlling your mind. You begin chasing acceptance outside, and don’t understand that it lies inside. Here is a guide on how you can learn to accept yourself and understand the real happiness:
Embrace the Flaws
No individual is perfect, and it’s often the imperfections that make you raw and natural. Perfection is a delusion and a temporary construct that hinders happiness. Happiness lies in the process and in embracing the flaws throughout. The day when you learn to accept your flaws and wear them with grace, you allow yourself to grow, which ultimately becomes a source of real happiness.
Positive Intrapersonal Communication
Intrapersonal communication is another name for self-talk that we all do with ourselves. This inner dialogue or self-communication is the core aspect that influences our thought process, ideas, decision-making, goal setting, and acceptance. Negative self-talk pushes you away from yourself, and positive intrapersonal communication brings you closer. Positive self-talk connects you and allows you to accept life and circumstances as they are.
Schedule a Coaching Session with Joanna Krzastek
For a deeper understanding of the subject and to learn and practice how to accept yourself truly, schedule a coaching session with Joanna Krzastek. Her approach to life and happiness will give you a new vision. Joanna Krzastek is a professional life coach and happiness life coach in Ontario who helps individuals become a better version of themselves. Get in touch with Joanna Krzastek on Linkedin.